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Self-Care

If you’re a caregiver, it’s important to take care of yourself, in addition to the one in your care. If you don’t, some day, someone will be taking care of you!

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Definition of a word
Self-care
The care of oneself without medical or professional assistance or oversight from anyone else.

Question of the month
I live hundreds of miles from my grandmother, but visit at least once a year and I’ve noticed she seems to be declining more each time I visit. I think she’s thinner and I don’t think she can take care of herself properly. Should I mention this to my parents or aunts who live closer and check on her more than I can?

You owe it to your grandmother to tell those in a position to do something. Tell your parents your concerns, but don’t say just that you are worried about Nana. Give specific reasons for your alarm and be prepared to meet resistance from them or their siblings who may not be ready to acknowledge their mother needs assistance. It’s natural to delay discussing this subject and because they see her more often than you, it’s easy to overlook her gradual decline. Make a list of exactly what you have noticed changing from year to year and have some suggestions ready for intervention, including how you can help. With your grandmother’s permission, ask the entire family to pay to hire a housekeeper who also cooks and acts as companion. Including the whole family gives everyone a sense of control and your grandmother’s condition could improve.
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Caregiver Resource
CareNotes.com prints helpful brochures that are offered free in hospital or hospice chapels and other healthcare facilities. Caring for Yourself when You’re Caring for Someone Ill is only six pages, but covers the subject of self-care thoroughly. CareNotes  publications cover hundreds of topics and can be purchased individually or in bulk.

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Properly administered self-care
How you choose to provide self-care will depend on your particular personality, needs and your support team.

  • At the very least, learn to pace yourself and realize that relinquishing care to another family member or professional for a few hours is not selfish; it’s vital in the long run.
  • Recognize your own strengths and accept that you may need to call on outside sources to fill in some gaps. It is a sign of strength to request  help.
  • Find someone you can trust when you need to talk and don’t be embarrassed to discuss your negative feelings.
  • Be sure to include someone who will help you laugh.

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Nurture your body with good nutrition and exercise, because if you don’t care for yourself, you cannot care for anyone else.

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Feed your spirit, too. You may need to start by writing a wish list of things you want to do, events you hope to attend, places you’d like to visit when your caregiving tour comes to an end, and remember, it will come to an end.

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Stress Relief Tips
Recognize your own needs before you offer to provide care for someone else. According to the staff of Kairos Support for Caregivers, caregivers fall into two categories:

  • those who act out of pity and ignore their own needs
  • those who act out of compassion and recognize the importance of caring for themselves as well.

Learn to recognize signs of caregiving stress and act to provide the best self-care possible.

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