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Thanksgiving & National Family Caregiver’s Month

Caregiver with his motherNovember is National Family Caregivers Month, and rightfully so, with more than 65 million family caregivers in the United States, alone. Family caregivers are full-time partners with their loved ones, and because of the complexities involved in providing care at home, entire families are affected. This is a great time for caregivers and their families to express gratitude, not just to the caregiver, but to the one being cared for, as well.

If you want to express gratitude to the caregiver in your family’s life, here are some ideas:

  • Give tickets to an upcoming local event and offer to stay with your loved one while the caregiver takes a friend or other relative.
  • Consider a magazine subscription in a hobby of his or her choice and be sure the subscription can be read online, if the caregiver prefers to read e-books.
  • Home-cooked meals are almost always welcomed by caregivers.
  • Offer to simply come and keep the two of them company for a few hours. Pull out the old hard copies of photos and reminisce together.
  • Bring casseroles for the freezer in microwave or oven-safe dishes for “bad days.”
  • Stop by with a picnic lunch or tea party in the middle of the day. Be sure you call first to avoid doctor’s appointments and arrive early enough to set it up in time for lunch. Make sure you do all the post-party clean up, too.
  • Have flowers delivered.
  • Stop by for a visit with no expectations. See what unfolds.
  • Give the gift of an afternoon off, with a gift certificate for a pedicure or movie.
  • Plan an evening to relieve the caregiver, but bring a designated driver so the caregiver can go out for a few drinks without worries.
  • Ask your siblings or friends to bring potluck and photos for an evening of nostalgia. Be sure you stay to clean up afterwards.
  • Offer to visit while the caregiver tends to personal needs like doctor’s or hair appointments.
  • Pay for a haircut.
  • When you are doing your weekly shopping, buy some special foods you know your family will enjoy. Add in some paper products so the clean up is easy and stop by with a “Care Package.”

Respite

Thanksgiving Dinner should be a time for family unity and a chance to share gratitude, spend time with loved ones, but for the family caregiver it is often just one more thing to manage. As our families age and adult children relocate, our traditions change with our needs. If you are the caregiver for your aging parent(s) you may be expected to resume or resurrect old traditions. You may need to compromise. If your siblings have created new traditions, discuss ways you can include your parents so the burden of a full-blown Thanksgiving celebration doesn’t fall entirely on you. Consider if it may be time to create a new tradition and remember not doing things the way they’ve always been done is not a tragedy. It can be the beginning of something better.

hugRemember to always be grateful and to show your appreciation, even in little ways, it can make a big difference.

 

 

 

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